Love Language | Acts of Service | Part 2 of 5
can helping your child pick up toys really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” child will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear is: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments and making more work for them tells them that their feelings don’t matter. Finding ways to serve speaks really loudly to these kids.
if this describes your wildling, do:
• help them learn to do something better
• show support of their efforts
• lend your assistance to lighten the workload
don’t:
• create more work for them
• stand aside when they are really struggling
• do too much for them and stifle their independence
practical ways to express love in this language:
• Help make each other’s bed in the morning
• Do laundry together
• Wash the cars together
• Prepare lunch together
• Tackle a room to clean and organise
• Help each other with the dishes
• Have your wildling help you make breakfast for your partner
• Go grocery shopping together
• Ask someone, “How can I help you today?”
• Switch a chore with one another
• Vacuum or mop the house together
• Prepare your wildling’s bath together (you get the water ready, your child brings the towel/clothing)
• Do an outdoor chore together – rake the leaves, plant flowers together
• Bring a drink to refresh someone
• Clean up toys together after playtime
• Teach your wildling a new chore so that they can help out more around the house
• Rearrange a heavily-used area of the house that tends to get messy easily – shoes near front door, dining table, etc.
• Clean out the garage together
• Head over to the grandparents and help them with a needed chore
• Surprise a family member with a treat – sibling at school, partner at work, etc.
